We hear countless stories of victims who have been raped. Our reaction usually is sympathetic towards them and we do our best to help them by offering them our support . Sexual abuse is a crime, no matter who commits it. But what if a man is raped, how does society deal with this kind of situation. Step in Reddit user calinylo00 who sought to ask the Reddit community by posting her story in the sub reddit called AITA (Am I The Asshole). Her story goes as follows…
Im a 20yo woman currently dating my 24 yo boyfriend of 5 months.
Hes tall, muscular, blonde with blue eyes. Hes also really dominant and works at a start up doing marketing. In general hes very smart, funny, yadda yadda you get it. I like him.
However even though our sex life is good hes been having trouble performing starting a week and a half ago. I thought it was me at first so i asked him and he started to break down a bit before crying. Hes just started seeing a therapist or "counselor" about his childhood.
Then he tells me that he was raped as an 11 year old by his stepbrother, multiple times when he was young. This floored me as up until this point he seemed so macho and sort of like a "tough guy" and nows hes confessing to being raped by another man while completely being in tears and holding me.
I held him back and let him vent but i ended up leaving (we were at his apartment).
I completely understand that its horrible being a rape victim but honestly i dont know if i could see him the same way again. I had this image of him thats completely shattered and honestly everytime i see him text me I just feel weird now.
My best friend thinks i should try to keep dating him for a bit but im really not attracted to him like i was before. We're not broken up yet but im considering it kinda. AITA?
The responses from people is not what she anticipated at all and they are quite brutal tbh…